The Human Contradiction -- Sociality and Individuality
We have evolved as a social species. This means that as individuals, our instinctual behaviors are conditioned by the behaviors of those around us and that we seek to be around others, to thus be conditioned. Further, behaviors within a group tend towards furthering or achieving a kind of Pareto optimality where no one is made "worse off" by the gains or actions of another.
We are moved by reinforcers, positive reinforcers move us toward those reinforcers, and negative reinforcers move us away from those reinforcers. The strength of a reinforcer my vary within a person and constitutionally among people. Two people may respond to the same reinforcer in the same direction but with different intensities, or may respond to the same reinforcer but in opposite directions. A reinforcer and its direction may be biologically/constitutionally or symbolically/socially determined, or by interactions with other reinforcers. Reinforcers can be learned or can be inherent. Reinforcers exist on a continuum: if starved, we may gorge ourselves on the food reinforcer, but once satiated, continued gorging becomes unpleasant. Sociability also exists on a reinforcement continuum.
???Sociability means enjoying, or finding positively reinforceing, having things in common with others. Individuals therefore strive to maintain commonality as an attempt to maintain sociability. Sometimes the attempt to maintain commonality can become oppressive or negatively reinforcing for some -- to the point where maintaining commonality or conformity becomes oppressive to most.
